FILWP Presenting Tip #010: Shooting at the competition only shoots you in the foot
FILWP PRESENTING TIP #010: SHOOTING AT THE COMPETITION ONLY SHOOTS YOU IN THE FOOTYou’ll probably agree with me that there is something very attractive about someone who’s confident in themselves, and yet, not arrogant or ‘up themselves’. And that there is something very unattractive about someone who is petty, or venomously attacks someone else behind their backs? Exactly. Even more so when the person doing the attacking is doing it from stage.
IT’S NOT ABOUT PLAYING SMALL OR LYINGThis tip is not about playing small, or having to lie – by any stretch of the imagination. If your product or experience of something is great, then share it, of course, and share it proudly. If you believe that what you’re offering is better than other stuff out there, say what makes it so. Focus on the benefits and unique attributes of what you offer, without dragging ‘the other’ through the mud. (Ultimately, there is no ‘other’ out there, we’re all connected and whatever you send out will come back to you in some way, some day). If you stand for and believe in something, then say it, and say it proudly. And, find a way to do all of the above without needing to badmouth, criticize or ridicule anyone or anything else to make your point, for when you do that (badmouth, criticize or ridicule), it really says more about you than the other person, and it’s not very attractive. Watch the video to hear about what happened to me, and how it backfired for the person who publicly attacked me.
IT’S ALSO NOT ABOUT LYINGI often get asked what I think of a particular book, course, or person. If it is someone like the person I referred to above, I just say “I would not work with them”, “I do not agree with the way they go about things,” or “I do not trust them, perhaps you want to find out for yourself?’ or something like that. That is, I will not endorse someone or something that I don’t trust, or know nothing about. At the same time, you do not need to resort to insults and name-calling, especially not from the stage.
TAKE THE HIGHER ROAD (BECAUSE IT FEELS BETTER)Consider taking the high road; treat others with respect, even when you disagree with them (esp when they’re not there). inspire your audience by speaking for yourself and for what you stand there. Ultimately, it feels better to your audience, and it feels better to you.
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